Suuuuper confused no one mentioned The Witness yet. Probably the best calm game of our time.

My country has a social safety net, you don’t lose your home when you go unemployed. You just live in poverty instead, which for me, was preferable.

I dealt with it by becoming unemployed and living off of social security.

biggest win for me is the hardware compatibility

how do you mean? Doesn’t it use the same Linux kernel as everyone else? Why would some hardware be more compatible?

It is already solved. The dirtyfrag patch fixes it already.

Why is it stupid to give people the option to only see posts that explicitly selected a language?

The only stupid thing here imo is the UI and how it’s explained, it shouldn’t be part of a multiselect together with the rest of the languages.

Liberals vs leftists essentially 🤣

Just watched it based on your recommendation. Still very relevant today :D

So yeah I am not black, but you said elsewhere that that kind of opinion is still fine.

And also, if you want, you do not have to bring ethnicity into it at all, in my opinion. This can just be handled like any kind of “family disapproval”. Of course some people are sensitive to racism based issues, but I think it’s not actually that relevant in this question/situation.

In my personal opinion, people value family, and “approval of other humans” in general entirely too much. I understand that family is an important survival mechanism of our species and thus ingrained in our psyche to care about, but in some situations, family bonds are just a straight detriment to one’s life.

For example, if your family causes(/d) huge emotional pain and trauma, which prevents you from properly functioning in society, even if there is the potential safety net of “my family takes care of me while I’m in trouble” (i.e. idk, losing your home and needing a place to sleep) severely loses its value if the result is more pain and dysfunction accompanying it.

This is just to illustrate my general thinking.

Now with regards to situations you mentioned, I would just say “fuck em”. In my opinion, there’s no need to associate with a family that’s not even yours. If your partner insists on it, I would find another partner. With my current partner (who is also Asian), neither she nor I have contact to our families, so it’s not an issue anyway, but in general, there should ideally never be any “requirements” to be fulfilled. If I say no to my partner on something, that’s it, same as when she does it, that’s it for me.

Maybe I’m just extremely lucky or I’m very tolerant, but I think you should have a partner that you like as a human in general, whose whole set of worldviews align with your own. If a partner were to try to force me to interact with their racist family, I fundamentally disagree with that and I would dislike that person so much as to not be able to be with them.

I generally don’t think you can change humans very much, so all of this kind of “attempting to conform to a set of expectations” is moot and shouldn’t be done.

So to summarize this, I think family ties are not that important, and having to confront annoying situations is not necessary, as a loving partner that cares about you would not force that on you. This kind of attitude might leave you without a partner, but it also leaves you free to get a partner who you’re actually compatible with and don’t need to care about stupid family views.

So I’m personally really struggling because there are no paragraphs. The text itself is completely fine, I think. But when paragraphs are missing, I’m just unable to focus on the text for long and extract meaning from it.

Usually, you try to group closely related sentences together in a paragraph. It’s a bit of an art but uuuusually relatively obvious. So for example, when I start reading your post, the first group I could identify was the “preamble of stating your intention”, which is

I’m a Black man in the Pacific Northwest, and I’ve been thinking about interracial dating, especially Black men dating Asian women. I want to be clear: I’m not here to attack Asian people, Asian women, Black women, white people, or anyone else. I’m asking because I’m genuinely trying to understand the conversation better.

Then it continues with some personal experiences, each of which deserve its own paragraph:

I’ve dated Asian women before, including a Vietnamese woman I still think highly of because she was mature, open-minded, and not racist. I was young then and my intentions were different then.

I was offered to marry an Asian woman but I declined; The person of interest behaved one way in front of her parents, another way around her friends and a different way around my friends, and overall she treated me like I was an experiment. I side eyed her a lot.

Then it gets hard for me, because it seems you make a generic statement about your preferences/thoughts:

My interest is not based on stereotypes or fetishizing. I’m attracted to different kinds of women, and I try to see people as individuals.

Which sounds like a separate set of statements which should stand apart from the rest, because then you go into another section about online discourse, but you start with a “But”, which sounds like the statements are related. I did not understand at first what you liking women in a certain way has to do with online discourse that says asian women like white men over black men.

I think I understand now after taking this long time dissecting it, but that’s kinda what I mean, I had to do that dissecting now which I would have to do much less/none of if the statements were nicely grouped by paragraphs.

I hope that was clear :)

I will offer you my opinion about the actual content in another comment.

Hello, I had a hard time reading your post. May I give specific feedback about your writing? If you don’t want that, completely fine, just ignore this comment :)

I can’t figure out how to install this on Arch Linux, wtf

Yes, but then you are willingly accepting the risk of posting in a fully public forum anyway. What I’m saying is, you could, if you wanted, not have personally identifiable information on your account.

I’m not sure that is true. As far as I know, GDPR only covers personally identifiable information, if the data is completely anonymous, and can not be traced back to your person, it is fine to use under the GDPR. This is a common misconception about the GDPR.

So the real question is if your comments can be used to identify you personally. This might be the case, or it might not.

This only makes sense if your account contains personally identifiable information. If it doesn’t, then what can really happen?

It seems like you know them personally (or the victims) and are pretty vindictive about this. I’m sorry that person has caused you so much pain! Hope they got the punishment they deserved and that you can eventually feel at peace about this.

You know many criminals also enjoy the (negative) fame they get?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/KkV7Ge5KdiA (A comedian talking with a “very leftist” crowd member, sorry for the yt link)

I’ve lived in an EU country all my life and don’t feel like I belong anywhere, so I can’t really help you there :D

I don’t really care that much though, I’m personally just fine “belonging” to a few specific people I know, no matter where they are.

I know the reasoning, it does make sense in a way, if you trust Google. But that’s kind of the point, you can’t truly look into their hardware, who knows what is within the chips, potentially not even accessible by the OS. I wouldn’t trust the firmware made by Google if getting away from Google because it is evil is literally the point.