The answer is a personal hygiene, a fit physique, and a beard!!

Personal hygiene = no greasy hair, no B.O., no bad breath. Keep your haircut maintained.

For physique, no you don’t have to be gym bro built but just don’t look like I can push you over😆 Ladies are more forgiving towards a belly as long as you have nice arms and broad shoulders. Us ladies love that lol.

Beards help immensely on guys who don’t have much of a jawline. Helps with baby face. Hides a potential double chin too.

Also important is knowing how to dress for the occasion. You can put a little thought into something even as simple as a shirt and jeans. Like make sure your clothes are clean, aren’t wrinkly, and fit properly (pls don’t wear that holey/pilling/overstretched shirt or that shirt that you overgrew xD). Watches and collared shirts or sweaters instantly look more put together. If it’s a buttoned shirt, the fabric but most importantly length will tell you whether to tuck or untuck. Learn your fabrics and fabric patterns (ok that’s too advanced). Idk I’m not an expert on guy’s clothes. Just find some inspo or watch youtube/IG!

Very underrated tip: Match your company. It’s more important than what the strangers around you look like. If your group is going casual, go casual. If they are dressing nicer, make the effort to match them. This is cohesion, this is walking in like you own the joint! And most importantly, it will help you feel more comfortable instead of self-conscious.

And no active wear to dinner!! Pls change your shoes🤣

I’m seeing a lot of this in California! Going out in a sports bra

It ain’t nothing, but fuckin eczema lol. Gotta lotion up every day and even then, sometimes you get random flare ups.

Hey, I know what you mean. I catch myself doing this too, just looking for things to nitpick about. A nasty habit. My friend sometimes reminds me ‘you’re doing that thing again’ which is helpful. The thing is it doesn’t even feel like negativity -to me I’m just making conversation. I have to be more considerate when in the company of others and just enjoy experiences for what they are.