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Cake day: June 30th, 2025

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  • Like a lot of other people are saying: Go to the funeral

    A funeral happens once for someone, and that’s it. There’s no other opportunity to attend. So weighing missing a single opportunity to respect your father (and it sounds like you care for him) and provide closure for yourself, versus petty squabbles from other family members doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve been to funerals with family members I’ve disliked, and I just ignored them and stood away from them during the service; so I’m wondering why you wouldn’t be able to do the same? I feel like there might be something more going on. Either between you and the problematic family members; or your own mental wellbeing.

    Please consider that if you miss it, you may regret it. Especially considering that the reason for missing it would be a deliberate choice, and it’s over gossip. As you get older, you may find that you will care very little about gossip; especially if it’s from people you dislike. So you may come to realize in the future that you missed your father’s funeral over effectively nothing

    I’ve always been taught that attending someone’s funeral is one of the greatest good deeds you can do for someone. They’re no longer here, so they can’t pay you back; and sometimes it’s really difficult to attend both by having to stop everything you’re doing to make it, and emotionally. So there’s always been an emphasis on attending funerals in my life

















  • Your article points out the main reason why I haven’t gotten into sports; even though I’d like to follow a bit of hockey, F1, and UK soccer. It’s complicated and expensive as fuck. $50/month for a subscription, and it doesn’t even cover all of the games for the same team? I’m interested in putting something on, once in a while; but it’s not worth $50 to maybe use it once a month or two

    Thank you though for putting together these highly detailed instructions that are only for educational purposes!




  • I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with an unhinged lunatic, and I’m frustrated on your behalf that the police won’t do anything. Ironically, you could call the police, threaten to kill their family, and you’ll be picked up for free and taken to a safe place the lunatic can’t get at you

    I’d start by identifying what he actually knows. He’s proven he has obtained your names, phone numbers, and probably that you live in Nebraska; which is scary enough, but not enough to find you and cause harm.

    Search for your names and phone numbers using multiple search engines. I would look for addresses, or places of work. If he can find out where you work, it makes it much easier for an adversary to find you. An easy place to check is LinkedIn. If there is a connection with your names and where you work, I’d speak with someone at work. Tell them you have a stalker and:

    1. Ensure any customer support agents are aware they are NEVER to provide personal information about employees, EVEN IF IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BOSS ON THE PHONE. KnowB4 has some good training resources (not sponsored)
    2. To inform you if anyone has requested you / your family’s information.

    Next time he calls, you can ask him for your address. He’s been pretty up front about the knowledge he has so far, so check his homework and see how far he’s gotten. That will give you an idea if he can actually attack now, or attack later. If he doesn’t know your address / where you work, it doesn’t mean he can’t find out later. I’d also suggest to not lead with (do you know where I work?) as it will give him an idea; but maybe ask him how he plans on killing you? Gruesome, but it’ll let him blab. Maybe ask a friend to do this so you’re not up all night thinking about it.

    On the protection side: Unfortunately if the police isn’t willing to help, you’ll have to take matters into your own hands. Idk what the firearm laws are like in Nebraska, but you might want to look into it for self defence. I cant answer legal questions, but I’m more than happy to talk about firearms

    Do some of your own counter-intelligence yourself. Look up the guys name, email, phone number; whatever you can get (I wasn’t able to look at the Facebook profile). Build a profile against him. Might help next time you contact the police. Also, write it down somewhere and take screenshots. If he knows you’re onto him, he could delete his accounts.

    Finally, speak with a lawyer. They may be able to offer additional advice and bully the courts / police into getting off their asses and helping you more

    I’m sorry I can’t do more to help but offer advice and answer questions

    Good luck


  • I’ll preface my comment with I understand my setup is no where similar to yours, but I’ll share my setup to hopefully give you an idea as to what you can do.

    My desktop is running Unraid, and I’ve set it up with GPU pass through. This lets me spin up a machine with its own virtual drive with the OS installed. My other main folders (Documents, pictures, etc…) connect via network folders.

    Pro: Can try out a bunch of OSs easily, and I don’t really care if I nuke my OS drive.

    Con: The GPU passthrough can be very finicky. Admittedly, It was a struggle to get everything setup initially; but I think Unraid is working on streamlining that process.

    I’d also recommend looking into setting it up in Proxmox first if you want to try this route. Proxmox is free, and Unraid is paid; so if you just want to play around with the idea, try the free version first.

    Hope this helps!