As someone who was in the same shoes as the person you reacted to: I was absolutely repulsed. It’s the main reason why I waited until my late thirties to get a partner for life.

When I got the slightest whiff of the men being with me because he liked that I was short / skinny / childlike that was the end of the relationship. It’s not only superficial, but also highly questionable to find your partner attractive because of these traits.

I actually think something like that would be great. Not only for Reddit but also for the data your internet provider, email provider, WhatsApp, Google, Apple, etc. has. People don’t realise that these companies have all kinds of sensitive data. And with “companies” I don’t mean some abstract organisation but literal employees, as in people.

I am more shocked about people being shocked that Lemmy instances can see your upvotes.

I think it is quite unfair towards someone to be with them only because otherwise you wouldn’t have any friends. Unless of course you both know about that.

Many people do not invest in relationships and that is the main reason they end up alone. I have seen this in other couples a lot.

For example, my father always tagged along but never had any respect for the work my mother put into relationships with friends and families. When they divorced my father became a grumpy and lonely old man who gets increasingly awkward the longer he spends cooped up alone.

He believes his way out is finding another woman. He seems to be unable to understand that it shouldn’t be another person’s job to “make” his social life…

A partner is no replacement for friends and they can’t be the stand in for all other relationships.