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Welcome to the wonderful world of herbalism. Plants make tons of beneficial (and to a lesser extent harmful) chemicals for animals like us. Plants can’t move so they use chemical to both deter and attract animals. Something like a fruit is supposed to be eaten which distributes the seeds so plants load them up on attractive chemicals (mostly sugars) so animals want to eat them. Since we all (plants and animals alike) share similar biochemistry it’s simple for plants to make hormones that we also use. Some of the presence is “intentional” and some is not.

To answer your question every fruit and vegetable has beneficial quantities similar to what you mentioned. The wider variety you eat the better.

I’m going to guess baby bonnet?

I have three accounts currently. One on piefed, one on a regional lemmy account and one for porn. Nothing wrong having multiple accounts to see what you like

This kind of bonnet? I think you can do it

Yes. Women do enjoy sex and you should try to make sure you do to. It’s not uncommon for women to not enjoy sex right away for a number of reasons. First something like 75% of women can’t come from penetration alone so you need to get more from yourself or your partner. Second some women don’t reach their sexual peak to around 30 because they need to really understand themselves and unlearn the myths about sex not being pleasurable. So what do you need to do?

First, I would recommend reading / listening to the best / longest running sex and relationship podcast by Dan Savage. It’s a great way to both get comfortable about hearing / thinking about sex is a positive way as well as learn about consent, advocating for pleasure as well as ways to communicate this. It’s kink and sex positive so you might hear about things that are scary or off-putting that some people like around sex but that’s good learning. You might even hear about things you didn’t know you were interested in.

Second you need to become the expert on your own body and pleasure. Your partner shouldn’t have to read your mind because they are focused on their own pleasure and might be as inexperienced as you are. So you need to masterbate and see what you like. Touch everywhere and everything you see what you enjoy. See what thoughts turn you on. If porn seems to give you the ick try female made porn from Erika Lust or some audio erotica from Dipsea. Lots of women and men have problem with mainstream porn point of view and might enjoy a different take on it. Also there are numerous smutty books out that you might enjoy. If you need some references OMGYes has real scientific information about what women do for pleasure that is supposed to be amazing. Urban Tantra has a chapter on erotic massage for Vulvas (it also has one Penises) with step by step instructions and pictures. You might not enjoy the spiritual / chakra / woo woo aspect but the rest is applicable.

You are doing great and have fun.

Edit: I can’t believe I did a whole post about female pleasure and forgot Sex Toys. You might need a vibrator another clitoris stimulation toy. oh joy sex toy has tons of reviews as well as other resources on sex toys. If you want to go in person go to Smitten Kitten or Babeland if they are in your city. If not look to see if any sex toy shops have the words feminist, LGBTQIA+ friendly or gender inclusive near you.

We will bring them along kicking and screaming if we have to.

It might just be me. Lol.

The only “problem” with a high libido is if you have a mismatched libido compared to your partner. You and your partner seems perfectly matched. Also as a women you are theoretically insatiable because you don’t have a refectory period like men. Go crazy girl.

If you want some perverted strangers advice about this come join you discussion at Savage Love. You will find a lot of people (including women) who have a similar libido as you. Or at least interested in sex and sex positivity

For sure. Lots of people use alcohol as an excuse to act in a way they actually want to. Especially for those who are ashamed of what that actually want.

“A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”

When drunk most people just do things that they wish they could when sober. That’s the real danger. Or as in Latin: In vino veritas

I’ve learned a lot from his column and podcast over the years. I think I started reading his column in the back of the physical copies of The Onion over a decade ago. Really changed by relationships and worldview for the better. Highly recommend for anyone and everyone

Thank you. I am channeling my inner Dan Savage

Now you got lots of important medical advice that I think you should listen to. Also, you should really try to masterbate to see what you like. Try to focus on your clitoris and what’s external that gets you turned on before trying internal again. Something like 70+% of women can’t come from penetration alone.

You need to become the expert on what you like. Maybe try some porn or audio erotica ([Dipsea])(https://www.dipseastories.com/). Maybe get a vibrator (not an insertion toy yet) from a good sex toy shop. (Smitten Kitten, Babeland or anything that uses the words feminist, queer friendly or women’s owned). If you want to learn more about sex, consent, pleasure, kink or relationships I love Dan Savage content. He’s been doing it for decades and has great advice about all of this. Don’t rely on your partner to know what to do. He is an expert on himself and you are learning either. Good luck

There are herbal remedies to reduce anxiety. However I doubt you will have some on hand unless you specifically found them earlier. I would recommend skullcap, passionflower, St Johns Wort, Tulsi and poppy tinctures which are all nervines. I might when suggest some lemon balm or anise hyssop as well which taste better and can be commands consumed in larger quantities.

If this is something you are interested in learning more about I would recommend Rosemary Gladstar: Beginner Guide book. She’s amazing and has some great simple recipes

I don’t know how blue jays can dig a hole. But who knows

Really begs the question about who is using who. The beautiful cooperation of nature is so wonderful to behold.

I recently read an interesting book about humans who land an alien planet with sentient plants. It’s worth a read https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Semiosis_(novel)

I am guessing it’s a squirrel. Those bitches love acorns

Both people in a relationship should be mature enough to make an informed decision which should be the case once you hit your mid twenties. However, if you have a larger age gap both of you should encourage greater scrutiny into your relationship and motives. People may question why and both of you should consider reasonable answers.

Agreed. And try to frame it as an addition to their church support not a replacement.

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