Holy shit, the memes came true.

I hate this timeline.

But also, direct link to the article here.

Yeah, OCD and anxiety often go hand in hand, as they do in my case. Do some breathing exercises and, if appropriate for your timezone, go to bed. Throw on something to listen to to take your mind off of things, like a podcast or audiobook or music you enjoy. You will very likely feel better for having done so.

At the risk of projecting, it’s sounding to me like you are currently experiencing a larger anxiety issue that I, as someone who has struggled throughout her life with anxiety, am very familiar with. Specifically, it sounds to me like you are catastrophizing.

What this means is that you have experienced a stressful situation that, for whatever reason, has triggered an intense stress reaction for you. Because of this, your body is experiencing stress symptoms, and your brain, recognizing the level of stress, is spinning trying to find possible threats that would match the intensity of the reaction, convinced that surely there must be a threat your conscious mind has missed that is causing this. As a result, your brain ends up overthinking everything about the scenario and coming up with catastrophic interpretations. This then causes further stress, resulting in a self-sustaining cycle where the brain stresses out the body and the body stresses out the brain, causing you to ruminate on a situation for much longer than would usually be expected for the situation.

Frequently, the first and most effective way to deal with this is to try to address the stress reaction itself. Activate your parasympathetic nervous system, whose job it is to calm the body back down after stress. Here is an article with some breathing exercises that help: https://www.katiepotratz.com/post/5-deep-breathing-techniques-to-activate-your-parasympathetic-nervous-system

It is my personal experience that, when dealing with catastrophization, the divide between the rational brain going “I’m overreacting” and the anxious brain and body going “AAAAAAAAAAAAA” can result in further feeling ashamed and embarrassed. It is not a cause for shame or embarrassment. It’s your system reacting to something in a way that you did not choose. If you eat a strawberry and have an allergic reaction, your brain knows that it’s not a threat, but your immune system has ideas of its own, and yet having an allergic reaction is also not cause for shame or embarrassment.

I could go through and soothe each individual fear that could possibly arise from this scenario, but if I am correct, none of it would be as effective as calming the nervous system down first and then seeing if the problem is still bothering you.

Finally, because I often have an experience where I freak out due to anxiety and then feel very embarrassed towards the person I was talking to and have a follow-up anxiety spiral about whether they are judging me for it, I want you to know I’m feeling zero judgment towards you, just recognition of an experience I have and sympathy for someone else experiencing it.

Or I could be totally projecting and off-base, in which case I have made a social faux pas, myself. I hope you can not only forgive me, but experience your own forgiveness and realize that the other people in that scenario are extending that same forgiveness to you.

Oh, 100%. I promise you that the people you encountered have already put this incident out of mind.

*flicks water over each of your shoulders * In the name of social anxiety relief, I, a random woman on Lemmy, hear your minor faux pas and absolve you. With this blessing, may you find relief from overthinking and forgive yourself for any perceived transgressions. Amen.

I would not consider it creepy behavior if I were in the bathroom and a guy did this.

Cis woman here. I’ve had a couple times where I’ve seen a guy accidentally walk into the women’s room, realize his mistake, and embarrassedly apologize and leave. I pretty much forget about it immediately unless reminded by a thread like this, and will forget about it again in short order. You’re fine; these things happen.

A couple of other people have commented on this, but no one’s fully explained the mechanism, so:

Fabric that’s petroleum-derived like polyester and most other synthetics traps odors and resists washing in ways that natural fibers don’t. Some people think this is because synthetics are less breathable than natural fibers, and while this is often the case, that’s not actually the main cause. Rather, this is because being oil-derived makes the fibers water-resistant, which keeps them from being thoroughly cleaned, and also traps body oils, resulting in food for odor-causing bacteria.

Here’s a good video explaining this in more detail, for the curious: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zJVYTnFjiFg

Honestly, I don’t think there’s much to do about that one beyond making sure to get 100% natural fiber clothes. As a bonus, it’s often less irritating to the skin and helps reduce a major source of micro plastics.

Some antiperspirants are further much tougher to wash off and will tend to resist washing, but I don’t know the mechanism behind this one, so I can’t really advise on it, apart from saying that I’ve not encountered the issue with natural deodorants.

What would completely utilizing it look like to you?

Everything moves, except me. I am at rest in my reference frame at all times! Everything just moves around me.

For anyone in scenarios like this:

• You likely already know about local food banks, but just mentioning them for thoroughness.
• Look for local chapters of Food, Not Bombs to find out when they do food distros. Try contacting them via online contact information for direct aid as well.
• Speaking of, look for mutual aid groups in your area. Some online directories can be found at https://www.mutualaidhub.org/, https://organize.directory/location and https://www.communitycommons.org/entities/edd8457e-d151-441f-9113-f4a4d04e8cea
• Look for local Sikh temples in your area that serve Langar, which are free community meals available to everyone of any faith.
• Try asking around for extra produce from people’s gardens on online local groups, especially gardening groups. This might mostly net you copious amounts of zucchini, but it’s still something.

Hey, that’s cool! This seems promising for enabling people dealing with chronic pain to have more options for ways to control pain without needing to potentially compromise mental function when they need it. Now to scroll through the comment section to see everyone’s completely reasonable and measured takes.

My family used to have the view that keeping cats indoors was cruel until one of our indoor/outdoor cats came back after being attacked by some unknown animal in what seemed like a safe suburban area. He was fully vaccinated and recovered mostly without incident, but he had to have a surgery and spend extensive time in the Cone of Shame with limited movement so he could recover.

And once we started keeping the cats indoors? It was unbelievable how much nature outside recovered. It was more than just songbirds everywhere (though we did have plenty of those). We saw hawks and owls. Woodchucks and deer would wander in (yards weren’t really fenced at this area… it was more on the rural side of suburban). Foxes and rabbits and wild turkeys. I once saw pawprints in the snow that I think were from a stoat. We could not believe how visible a difference just keeping the cats inside made.

And honestly, the cats didn’t really miss being outside after a week or so adjustment period. Once, a year or so in, Mom accidentally left the door to the outside open, and one of our cats just got this resigned look like “oh, I guess I have to go patrol the area, huh.”

Now, this was a two-story house with like five bedrooms and a basement, so it was more territory than, say, an apartment, which can make a difference. We also had two cats to keep each other company, so the house being empty during the work/school day wasn’t as big a deal. Space concerns are a bit tougher to address (though I will recommend catification, catios, and leash training for cats to do supervised outdoor walks), but if the concern is a cat getting lonely during the work day, then I’m just saying that two cats are not appreciably harder to take care of than one and after the introduction period they can do wonders for keeping each other entertained.

Cats are anarcho-communist

I knew that cats doing this were bringing back excess food for the colony (in their point of view, anyway) but this is the funniest way I have ever seen someone put it and I’m stealing it.

1. Light in a vacuum does not have rest mass, because there is no frame of reference where you can measure light at rest, because light famously always moves at the speed of light in any reference frame. You could define mass as including the kinetic energy, and physicists did at one point define mass that way, but it led to less intuition and more complicated math and definitions, so they dropped it to only really consider rest mass. (Good video on it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiBsfvW5AWY)
2. What exactly do you mean by the velocity of a black hole? Do you mean the velocity it’s moving through space with respect to an observer? Is this about how the universe can expand at a speed that’s calculated to be above the speed of light?
3. Once it’s in a black hole, it’s not coming out.

This is a long playlist but I recommend watching the videos that jump out at you: FloatHeadPhysics is really good at helping explain relativity and quantum mechanics without complicated math and building intuition. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLawLaqps30oAcpVd4r-wj8hGodzpPRYTT

[email protected] is a bit more low level than is most common, but may still be worth including on the list.

My personal thought as a lurker trying to learn enough through osmosis to start her own set-up is that hardware concerns are fine as long as they still relate to self-hosting in some fashion. “What hardware setup would be good for beginners looking to self-host a Google Drive alternative on a budget?” is self-hosting, fine, and the type of thing I would bookmark for my own reference. “Anyone have advice on cannibalizing an old laptop to DIY a mini PC?” would really not be self-hosting, even if your plan is to use the resulting mini PC to self-host a server.

I’d also be inclined to treat posts that are off-topic but have a selection of informative high-effort comments by locking them and sharing them to the appropriate community for further discussion there vs. removing them entirely.

Which is to say, yes, I like your proposed revision.

https://lemmy.world/post/47758551

I’m just gonna link this post.

If I had to paraphrase what happened, there was some (IMO polite) disagreement over the stringency of enforcing rule 3 and whether it was negatively impacting the community by removing posts that people worked hard to answer due to being more of a hardware-related topic, and then the previous mod abruptly made the people who offered the criticism moderators without any discussion on the matter with them first and then hasn’t been seen on Lemmy since.

Despite the absolutely wild events that led us here, you sound like a really solid moderator. Thanks for the intro!

You are my hero of the day.

Also, @[email protected], do you mind if I repost this to c/bestoflemmy?